When life gets challenging or tricky, you can use the following cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) 10 tips to help you "get a grip" on life's challenges.
Be on the lookout for any unhealthy negative feelings:
Anger
Anxiety
Guilt
Jealousy
Embarrassment
Shame
Fear
Depression
Low self-worth; lack of confidence
Name that feeling C.
Look for the situation or trigger that set the feeling off; this could be your internal thoughts.
Name the trigger A.
Remember, A did not cause C.
Work out the B — your belief or your thinking about the trigger.
Work out your 'should,' 'ought,' or 'must' thinking.
Challenge your own irrational thinking.
Change the irrational thinking to more rational thinking — 'I would prefer that this hadn't happened, but it has. How is upsetting myself helping me?
Make a cognitive shift to accepting the situation or trigger; you don't have to like it. Accepting the situation will allow you to move forward.