The key to overcoming codependency is relaxing and building a loving relationship with yourself. At Harvard Medical School, Dr. Herbert Benson developed a type of relaxation that doesn’t require any spiritual beliefs, but was very effective to reduce stress, anxiety, depression and anger. It’s called the Relaxation Response. Try it and if you like it do it every day.
Sit in a relaxed position, and close your eyes.
Starting at your toes and progressing to your face, relax each muscle, and keep them relaxed.
Breathe normally through your nose, and repeat “one” silently with each inhale and again with each exhale. Do not control your breath.
Do this daily for 10 to 20 minutes, and take a few minutes before returning to normal activities.