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No one can make you do, think, or feel anything.</li>\n<li><strong>Don’t touch other people’s belongings without their permission. </strong>If you want to touch another person’s belongings, ask them. If they say <em>no,</em> respect their answer.</li>\n<li><strong>Don’t agree to anything you’re uncomfortable with. </strong>When you make agreements you’re not comfortable with, you’re ignoring your wants, needs, preferences, and maybe even your values. You’re also highly likely to break agreements that you’re not fully committed to. Broken agreements are boundary violations, and they’re harmful to relationships of all kinds.</li>\n</ul>\n"},{"title":"Understanding Why Boundaries Aren’t Optional","thumb":null,"image":null,"content":"<p>Believe it or not, some people think boundaries aren’t necessary. Some even say boundaries are mean or cruel. But the truth is, boundaries (also known as <em>limits</em> or <em>parameters</em>) are ubiquitous, meaning they’re everywhere! Boundaries aren’t optional, and ultimately they’re inescapable.</p>\n<p>You can think of boundaries as varying levels of personal power — beginning with levels you have control or power over, and moving to higher levels over which you have very little or no power to control.</p>\n<p>Here’s a look at the relationship between personal power and boundaries you encounter in your life, starting with the limits you have the power to place on yourself to universal laws, like gravity. This progression from self-boundaries to universal laws makes the case that boundaries aren’t optional.</p>\n<h3>Creating personal limits or boundaries</h3>\n<p>You determine, through exercising personal boundaries, what you actually have the power to control, including what you eat, how much you move your body, where you live, what you choose to consume with your eyes and ears, or how you speak to other people. You can set limits for yourself or allow yourself to engage in boundaryless behavior.</p>\n<p>Personal boundaries are highly optional. You’re in complete control over the limits you place on yourself. Of course, you may face both positive and negative consequences for your choices. But ultimately, on this level you’re free to make decisions about anything that involves your personal behavior.</p>\n<h3>Defining boundaries you create in relationships</h3>\n<p>You have the power to determine how you interact with and relate to others. These limits include choices like how much time you spend with someone or whether you close a door to have privacy or to not be interrupted. 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Your partner has the right to reply <em>yes</em> or <em>no,</em> or to negotiate an alternative agreement with you.</p>\n<p>If your partner agrees to your request or the two of you say <em>yes</em> to an alternative solution, you have an agreement and a boundary. Remember that you have the power to request an agreement, but that doesn’t guarantee you’ll receive a <em>yes </em>to the agreement.</p>\n<h3>Understanding institutional rules, regulations, and guidelines</h3>\n<p>If you choose to be part of a community or organization, you either implicitly or explicitly agree that the institution’s rules and regulations limit your personal power. To be fair, you may not always observe the guidelines or rules, or you may consider them optional. However, you may experience consequences if you break them. 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Victoria Priya

Victoria Priya

Victoria Priya, LCSW, SEP (formerly Vicki Tidwell Palmer), is the host of The Boundaries Queen podcast, the founder of the Radiant Threefold Path, author of Moving Beyond Betrayal, and an award-winning blogger. She is a master coach who works with clients from all walks of life—from entrepreneurs to home-schooling moms. Her clients call her the “Boundaries Queen.”

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General Emotional Health Personal Boundaries For Dummies Cheat Sheet

Cheat Sheet / Updated 04-30-2024

There’s a lot to know about personal boundaries. But that doesn’t mean you need to wait until you understand all there is to know before you get started. The following are simple, actionable tips to help you start setting boundaries, along with specific actions you can put into practice immediately for some quick, powerful wins that instantly improve your boundaries. And if you’re wondering whether boundaries are even necessary, you can find the answer here too.

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